http://dir.salon.com/topics/since_you_asked/?source=rss&aim=since_you_asked en-us Copyright 2007 Salon.com. Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST Since You Asked: Get sound expert advice on relationships, careers and life from Salon.com's Cary Tennis. By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/24/avoiding_the_doctor/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/24/avoiding_the_doctor/index.html?source=rss I waited too long for my diagnosis: Whence such perversity? Childhood fears By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/23/boyfriend_is_boss/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/23/boyfriend_is_boss/index.html?source=rss I'm getting sick of being "the editor's girlfriend" By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/22/out_of_adolescence/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/22/out_of_adolescence/index.html?source=rss I think I'm a writer, but fear paralyzes me By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/19/trust/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/19/trust/index.html?source=rss How can I overcome this debilitating distrust? By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/19/diagnosis/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/19/diagnosis/index.html?source=rss On my current condition: Definitely treatable, definitely uncertain By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/17/atheism/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/17/atheism/index.html?source=rss I try to go along but it's hard concealing my beliefs By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/11/friends_without_boyfriends/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/11/friends_without_boyfriends/index.html?source=rss My still-single friends ask me what they're doing wrong -- should I tell them? By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/10/commuting/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/10/commuting/index.html?source=rss I basically got a ticket for not driving like a crazy person! By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/09/cohabitation/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/09/cohabitation/index.html?source=rss Ever since we moved in, we've been at each other. What happened? By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/08/cancer/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/08/cancer/index.html?source=rss My partner says he's just not attracted to me "right now" By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/05/the_jerk_weasel_constant/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/05/the_jerk_weasel_constant/index.html?source=rss Is it just me, or is the world seriously not living up to its potential? By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/04/attorney_in_the_next_office/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/04/attorney_in_the_next_office/index.html?source=rss He denigrates gays and Muslims while I grit my teeth By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/01/detachment_from_mother/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/01/detachment_from_mother/index.html?source=rss If I distance myself from her, won't I feel like a horrible person? By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/29/routine/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/29/routine/index.html?source=rss If I vacuum the house on the same day every week, will that give me a feeling of order? By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/28/rape_in_the_past/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/28/rape_in_the_past/index.html?source=rss She has accepted it but I cannot let it rest in the past By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/27/los_angeles/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/27/los_angeles/index.html?source=rss How do I get over liking him so much? I know it can never work! By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/26/family_writers/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/26/family_writers/index.html?source=rss My relatives inscribe their unchangeable history on all of us -- who would like to be heard in the present! By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/25/moved_across_country/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/25/moved_across_country/index.html?source=rss I stuck with him so our kid would have a dad, but I think it's time to head back home By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/22/blog_stalker/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/22/blog_stalker/index.html?source=rss I've been reading this family blog, but they don't know. I think they think it's private! By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/21/too_detail_oriented/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/21/too_detail_oriented/index.html?source=rss I cannot turn off this propensity for seeing what others miss By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/20/20_and_brilliant/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/20/20_and_brilliant/index.html?source=rss I thought I knew what I wanted to do and now all I want to do is ... join the Navy or ... learn German! By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/19/dating_a_drinker/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/19/dating_a_drinker/index.html?source=rss She was once in the program but says she's got no problem. Can that be true? By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/19/traffic_jam/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/19/traffic_jam/index.html?source=rss My thoughts run in circles! I'm all mixed up! By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/16/iphone_addict/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/16/iphone_addict/index.html?source=rss He won't put down his toy, even at dinner By Cary Tennis Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/12/abuser/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/12/abuser/index.html?source=rss I'm afraid she'll leave me if I reveal my past