Advice - Salon.com http://dir.salon.com/topics/advice/?source=rss&aim=advice en-us Copyright 2007 Salon.com. Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT Alone in South Africa with a drunken husband By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/09/05/south_africa/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/09/05/south_africa/index.html?source=rss I left the U.S. when I got married and now, with three grown children at home, I feel torn. All my traveling makes my husband jealous By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/09/04/wifes_traveling/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/09/04/wifes_traveling/index.html?source=rss He seems to believe that when I travel I must be sleeping with my boss. I can't get to work on time no matter what By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/09/03/sleep_disorder/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/09/03/sleep_disorder/index.html?source=rss I've tried to toe the line on my arrival time to no avail -- and I think it's gonna get me fired. I seem to be moving in with my boyfriend -- but why?! By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/25/boyfriend_with_kid/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/25/boyfriend_with_kid/index.html?source=rss His 9-year-old has Tourette's and ADHD, and I'm still a student ... is this a good idea? My mom left my dad in a nursing home and lied about his chances of coming home By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/22/laughter_in_the_dark/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/22/laughter_in_the_dark/index.html?source=rss He thought he'd be returning home to die. But she just strung him along until he was gone. My husband's an alcoholic but doesn't think he has a problem By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/21/alcoholic_husband/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/21/alcoholic_husband/index.html?source=rss What can I do? Should I leave? The slush pile gave me writer's block! By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/20/slush_pile/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/20/slush_pile/index.html?source=rss Everything was fine until I started reading unsolicited manuscripts. I escaped death -- and now I want to live! By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/19/escaped_death/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/19/escaped_death/index.html?source=rss Should I try to return to life as it was before, or should I set out on adventures? Doctors fighting about money: Now that's rich By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/18/doctors/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/18/doctors/index.html?source=rss His parents paid for everything and mine did not. So I'm in debt and he isn't. Why are we fighting about this? My marriage was a mistake By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/15/divorce_and_freedom/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/15/divorce_and_freedom/index.html?source=rss I wanted to be the bride but I don't like being the wife. Now I face the toughest decision of my life. My alcoholic husband does not feel deserving of love By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/14/recovery/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/14/recovery/index.html?source=rss We are now in a crisis of sorts, and his lack of self-regard is dragging both of us down. Should I tell my boyfriend's wife about our affair? By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/13/boyfriends_wife/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/13/boyfriends_wife/index.html?source=rss I'm leaving him and he's a scumbag. I think she should know who she's really married to. I'm isolated in a depressed urban area ... and now my parents have moved in with me! By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/12/community/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/12/community/index.html?source=rss How do I find community? Everyone I used to know has moved away. I'm so angry, it's time to change By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/11/anger/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/11/anger/index.html?source=rss Ever since the 2000 elections I've been angry -- not just at the government but at all of us Americans. I told my girlfriend a harmless lie ... and now she's sure to find out By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/08/lied_about_grandparents/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/08/lied_about_grandparents/index.html?source=rss I told her my grandparents don't live in America. But now we're going to visit them -- in America. My wife is seeing someone and it hurts more than I expected By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/07/marriage_ending/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/07/marriage_ending/index.html?source=rss We are amicably separated. I thought I had a handle on it. I can't believe the power of my feelings! Can a fractured friendship be renewed? By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/06/friendship/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/06/friendship/index.html?source=rss Six years ago she said she never wanted to see me again. The other day she called. A friendship with a colleague has gone too far By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/05/hot_for_colleague/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/05/hot_for_colleague/index.html?source=rss I'd love to take it even farther, but he's married and unavailable. I've been lying to my family: I never actually graduated! By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/04/liar/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/04/liar/index.html?source=rss I lied to shut them up but now I can hardly live with myself. I thought I could overcome my past, but now it's dragging me down By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/01/past_abuse/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/08/01/past_abuse/index.html?source=rss I've come far from the poverty and dysfunction of my roots, but asking for my family's support is bringing it all back again. I'm making progress in my art but feel like it's all a dead end By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/07/31/australia/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/07/31/australia/index.html?source=rss I've had some successes and some design internships, but I think I should move to Australia. Should I play this cruise ship gig -- with my anxiety and depression? By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/07/30/cruise_ship/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/07/30/cruise_ship/index.html?source=rss I'd love to go, but it's a nine-month contract and I'm afraid I'll want to jump overboard. How do you know when your intuition is speaking to you? By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/07/29/intuition/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/07/29/intuition/index.html?source=rss I have to make some decisions and would like to follow my gut -- but where is my gut? My mother's anxiety is driving me crazy! By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/07/28/mother/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/07/28/mother/index.html?source=rss Ever since her sister was attacked, and I survived cancer, she's been so anxious! 15 years ago I said something offensive and now I want to apologize By Cary Tennis Fri, 05 Sep 2008 03:09:00 PDT http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/07/25/apology/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2008/07/25/apology/index.html?source=rss Something slipped out of my mouth in junior high and it has bothered me all this time. Is it too late?