Advice - Salon.com http://dir.salon.com/topics/advice/?source=rss&aim=advice en-us Copyright 2007 Salon.com. Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST Two introverts in a tiny apartment: Help! By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/09/cohabitation/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/09/cohabitation/index.html?source=rss Ever since we moved in, we've been at each other. What happened? Cancer is killing my sex life By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/08/cancer/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/08/cancer/index.html?source=rss My partner says he's just not attracted to me "right now" Proof: The Jerk-Weasel constant exists! By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/05/the_jerk_weasel_constant/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/05/the_jerk_weasel_constant/index.html?source=rss Is it just me, or is the world seriously not living up to its potential? The attorney next door holds views I detest By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/04/attorney_in_the_next_office/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/04/attorney_in_the_next_office/index.html?source=rss He denigrates gays and Muslims while I grit my teeth How can I detach from my mother? By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/01/detachment_from_mother/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/11/01/detachment_from_mother/index.html?source=rss If I distance myself from her, won't I feel like a horrible person? How can I get myself into a routine? By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/29/routine/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/29/routine/index.html?source=rss If I vacuum the house on the same day every week, will that give me a feeling of order? I can't get over my wife's rape -- 20 years ago By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/28/rape_in_the_past/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/28/rape_in_the_past/index.html?source=rss She has accepted it but I cannot let it rest in the past I like a guy but he thinks we're just friends By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/27/los_angeles/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/27/los_angeles/index.html?source=rss How do I get over liking him so much? I know it can never work! My family of writers are all stuck in the past By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/26/family_writers/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/26/family_writers/index.html?source=rss My relatives inscribe their unchangeable history on all of us -- who would like to be heard in the present! I moved cross-country with Mr. Wrong By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/25/moved_across_country/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/25/moved_across_country/index.html?source=rss I stuck with him so our kid would have a dad, but I think it's time to head back home Am I a blog stalker? By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/22/blog_stalker/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/22/blog_stalker/index.html?source=rss I've been reading this family blog, but they don't know. I think they think it's private! I'm way too detail-oriented! I notice everything! By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/21/too_detail_oriented/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/21/too_detail_oriented/index.html?source=rss I cannot turn off this propensity for seeing what others miss I'm 20, brilliant and totally lost By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/20/20_and_brilliant/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/20/20_and_brilliant/index.html?source=rss I thought I knew what I wanted to do and now all I want to do is ... join the Navy or ... learn German! I'm sober and dating a drinker By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/19/dating_a_drinker/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/19/dating_a_drinker/index.html?source=rss She was once in the program but says she's got no problem. Can that be true? There's a six-lane traffic jam in my head! By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/19/traffic_jam/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/19/traffic_jam/index.html?source=rss My thoughts run in circles! I'm all mixed up! My boyfriend's an iPhone addict! By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/16/iphone_addict/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/16/iphone_addict/index.html?source=rss He won't put down his toy, even at dinner Did someone slip DoubleX's advice columnist a mickey? By Amy Benfer Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/broadsheet/feature/2009/10/15/rosenfeld_roofie/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/broadsheet/feature/2009/10/15/rosenfeld_roofie/index.html?source=rss DoubleX's Lucinda Rosenfeld gives some stupendously bad counsel, and readers push back, with advice for her removal I'm a former abuser -- should I tell my girlfriend? By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/12/abuser/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/12/abuser/index.html?source=rss I'm afraid she'll leave me if I reveal my past The Internet ate my nephew! By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/09/nephew/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/09/nephew/index.html?source=rss He's a smart kid but he's fallen for a crazy conspiracy site I'm sick of people labeling people By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/08/strippers_and_illegals/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/08/strippers_and_illegals/index.html?source=rss We're not "strippers"! We're not "illegals"! We're citizens of the planet! My brother seems lost after college By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/07/brother/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/07/brother/index.html?source=rss He's started attending Mass ... and he's going to convert! Turning 50: It's all downhill from here By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/06/turning_50/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/06/turning_50/index.html?source=rss I've got only a genetic disease and old age to look forward to Can I be friends with an older man in sobriety? By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/05/sobriety_and_friendship/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/05/sobriety_and_friendship/index.html?source=rss I desperately want to stay sober, but the social part is wigging me out! My condo neighbor yelled at me By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/02/condo_life/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/02/condo_life/index.html?source=rss He freaked out because I parked in "his" parking space A neighbor put a stick in our yard By Cary Tennis Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:11:00 PST http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/01/unlawful_mowing/index.html?source=rss http://www.salon.com/mwt/col/tenn/2009/10/01/unlawful_mowing/index.html?source=rss My husband mowed their median strip and moved that stick ... and they put it back in our yard! What is that about?