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Dear Cary,

I don't know what to do. I am a 23-year-old woman engaged to a great guy. We have a 7-month-old daughter. The problem is his sister. When I was four or five months pregnant she tried to attack me. She made it clear that she didn't want me having this baby. Every time she calls she can say one or two words and can have him mad at me for a week. She has a son who will be 2 a couple of days before Father's Day. She is throwing his birthday party at a cabin two hours north of where we live. (She is a psycho.) My fiancé will not be here for his first Father's Day because his sister and her son always take precedence over his daughter and me. I have tried talking to him and nothing works. Should I leave him and let him figure stuff out on his own?

Jennifer

Dear Jennifer,

Yes, you should leave him and let him figure this stuff out on his own. And when, in a couple of weeks, he calls you and says he has it all figured out now and you can come home, tell him to do a little more figuring. There might still be a couple of things he hasn't quite figured out yet, like who he's engaged to and who is the mother of his child.

Sounds nutty and dangerous. Leave him and his whole crazy family. You say he's a great guy. How great a guy can he be if his sister can call him and say two words and make him be mad at you for a week? What kind of life can you expect to have with a sister-in-law who tries to attack you? What sort of mother would you be if you continued to expose your daughter to these crazies?

Get out of there. Go far away. Take the kid. And when he calls to charm you with whatever great qualities he supposedly has, don't put the baby down to answer the phone.

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