Griffiths made these outrageous escapades believable, despite some viewers' persistent suspicion that Rachel is really more gay man than straight woman. Her face is fascinatingly malleable after the manner of many borderline cases: It's smooth, pale and aggressively pointed when she's in one of her cynical, driven phases; now that she's destroyed her engagement to Nate, it's heartbreakingly raw and open, with her eyes seemingly doubled in size. The blistering fight that led to their breakup in this season's penultimate episode -- during which Brenda accused Nate of choosing someone as messed up as herself in order to feel more like an adult -- made for some of the most harrowing minutes of television all year.

What makes "Six Feet Under" more than a soap is just that sort of scene, with its resolute un-soapiness, its ragged authenticity and the vertiginous feeling that permanent damage is being done. Brenda may be a basket case, but when she first showed up in the show's pilot, she seemed like a breath of fresh air, frank about her family's appalling craziness in the face of Nate's bland, squirrelly, groovy-guy calm. It hurts to see her cracking, and it's unsettling.

She's not the only character whose signal trait has taken a scary turn for the worse, either. David's handsome black cop boyfriend, Keith (Mathew St. Patrick), after scolding David out of the closet last season, has shown the nightmare side of his seemingly shipshape personality this time around. He turns out to have an abusive, angry father, a druggy sister and a sassy-mouthed niece he's intent on saving from the other two even if he has to kill somebody to do it. He and David have reversed roles since David came out, as couples often do when one party makes a serious change. Now Keith is the tightly wound control freak likely to explode when the tiniest fissure appears in his grimly perfect life.

That subplot would be more compelling if only St. Patrick could play Keith with something more than basic TV-actor competence. Up against Hall, who is doing the best acting in the show, he seems weirdly inert, like the grille of a Mac truck preparing to plow down David's tender dreams of family life. "I was going to make dinner," David murmurs to a glowering Keith, who pointedly ignores his lover's tear-stained face and switches on a nature program with a fast-food meal in front of him. It's a minor line, but Hall delivers it exquisitely, with a blend of Claire's adolescent sullenness and Ruth's rebuffed maternal instinct, making it clear that even this all-too-rare scene of dysfunctional gay domesticity is, in the most unexpected ways, all about family.

The meek way David absorbs Keith's surliness without becoming contemptible, the way that Claire's smirking cynicism is both refreshingly clever and poisonously callow, the way Nate can be the most emotionally competent Fisher and at the same time exasperate everyone with, as Claire puts it, his tendency to "dole out wisdom like the Dalai Lama" -- "Six Feet Under" pushes us further toward disliking its characters than any other TV show. Even at their worst, though, these people don't have the glamour of the actually evil (except, maybe, for Brenda's stupendously horrible mother), so they can't even be antiheroes. Instead, they're ordinary human beings, and that makes their often wince-inducing behavior so much harder to take.

"Six Feet Under" is remarkable precisely because it refuses to instruct us on how to feel about its characters, something no other TV show does. That includes "The Sopranos," which when you get right down to it informs us that we are to be equally repelled and attracted by Tony's violence and his alpha-male confidence. "Six Feet Under" dares us to stay connected to the Fishers, even when they make us shudder with their gawky, warty, ludicrous humanity. And for some reason, we do, because even though we don't remember signing up for it, somehow we're in for the long haul. It's not an unusual feeling, although we don't usually have it about TV shows. Just another way that it's all about family.

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