In her cluttered one-bedroom apartment off Avenue A, one wall of the living room is filled with family photos. She was born in New Jersey and raised in upstate New York. She lived in California for a while, then moved back to New York, where she has been living for the past 16 years. On the opposite wall, photos of friends, including well-known porn stars, line the shelves of the bookcase, along with Halloween knickknacks that remain year-round. It is her favorite holiday, as well as the date of her wedding anniversary.

Piles of porn videos clutter the floor of the apartment. She and her husband receive packages every day with videos to review -- he for Penthouse and she for Extreme Fetish. Ehmann says this is one of the toughest parts of the job because the videos seem to all blend together. Nevertheless, she has to say something different about each one for her magazine. "The worst are those videos that are part of a series like 'Anal Gangbang No. 12,' or videos that are just shots of blow jobs and that's it," says Ehmann. "As much of a fan of blow jobs as I am, it couldn't be more boring." Danville also writes video reviews for Extreme Fetish, and fetish-related articles, but he does not get paid for his contributions. "I just have to give him blow jobs," Ehmann laughs.

The couple first met in 1993 when she answered a New York Times ad listing a job opening at Screw magazine, where Danville worked. "I thought he was an obnoxious rock hipster," says Ehmann. "A couple of months later we met at a party and had a fabulous one-night stand that has lasted six years. We are two pornographers in love," Ehmann adds.

It was around 1996 that Ehmann began her crusade to make New York more "sex friendly." Giuliani was in City Hall, and the showdown began between the strip club and sex shop owners and the Times Square Business Improvement District. She started a fanzine called Porn Free with the idea of giving away pornography. "I thought, hey, there's a niche that no one is filling. Of course, it wasn't very profitable." Ehmann gave up Porn Free after being approached in 1997 by D&L Enterprises, a publishing company, to be the editor of a fetish magazine.

It was Ehmann's goal to create a sex publication that would provide fetishists with content suited to their needs. Each monthly issue of Extreme Fetish has a particular theme, such as latex, shoe fetishes or musclebound divas. The magazine is distributed to more than 30,000 readers nationally and is also available online.

Ehmann's entire editorial budget totals $5,000. "I do it all, so it keeps the costs low," she says. The magazine's headquarters is a section of her apartment that includes a Macintosh computer and piles of letters and photos she receives from readers. The letters take up three pages of the magazine and include stories of people's fetish fantasies and requests for what they would like to see in the magazine.

One reader, Dave, writes to tell of his dream of having "unisex bathrooms where toilets surround a table ... it would be neat to sit down next to a strange woman." Ehmann published Dave's letter and her reply, which states, "I am perpetually engaged in assisting people with the realization of their fantasies ... I have tossed around the idea and may put together a photo shoot. So be patient, Dave. Dreams do come true."

Another reader offers insight on "how culture compartmentalizes us -- so that even our sexuality is divided into procreative and sinful. Viewing fetish may lead to new understandings and tolerance in the human condition." He ends his letter by stating, "If you ever need pictures of a male using suction cups on his nipples ... or pretending to be an amputee, let me know."

Ehmann did not respond to this letter. She says she gets plenty of photos from her readers displaying their fetishes. She has just published one reader's photos showing his sweater fetish. In one of the pictures, a man is wrapped in Angora sweaters from head to toe and bound with rope. In another, the man is swaddled under 20 thick sweaters. The accompanying letter thanks Ehmann for giving readers an outlet to share their desires and not feel like "freaks."

Ehmann pulls all the letters that she will publish in the next issue and jumps to her Macintosh computer. She is frantic, with less than an hour to get the photos and artwork to the color separators. Extreme Fetish is already a month behind on this issue, devoted to medical fetishes, because of setbacks with the previous "Tits & Abs" issue featuring bodybuilders and physical domination.

"We're running behind because for the last issue we had to individually glue in 30,000 scratch-and-sniff stickers of stinky feet," says Ehmann. "When boxes of these stickers showed up at my door, my whole apartment smelled like stinky feet -- not that it didn't already." Pungency aside, the issue also had to be retouched a great deal to remove the athletic logos from the model's gym clothes to avoid potential lawsuits from companies that don't wish to be featured in porn magazines.

Gathering everything she needs for the separator and printer, she checks herself in the mirror before heading out. Her red hair is piled on top of her head in a knot. She is not wearing any makeup, exposing her freckles. Wearing a pair of old blue sweats, she rushes out the door, looking like the alter ego of the fetish diva pictured on her editorial page.

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